First of all I want to apologize that this article hurt you so much… it was one of my initial fears in publishing something like this. I had hoped that I made it clear enough that this particular idea didn’t apply to everyone, and especially wasn’t the case for those with severe depression. My intention was simply to write about an idea/speculation/theory I had (and it IS that) knowing that only a portion of people would find it applicable to their experience or otherwise an interesting idea to think about. This is because depression is so varied, its cause isn’t well-known (the “biological theory” actually isn’t very well-proven) and no one’s experience is the same.
I’m not sure if you read the whole thing, but most of the last third of the article alludes to the fact that this idea obviously doesn’t cover the whole spectrum. For example: “The second problem with labeling depression as an addiction is that such an accusation presumes that the depression was a choice. This is most certainly not always the case; furthermore, it is not a great way of framing things either, for the simple reason that it inspires guilt and shame in people who are chronically depressed and truly do feel powerless. For these people, it’s not as simple as upending an unconscious pattern.”
I have had depression in the past and you’re not the first one to suggest that surely I couldn’t know what it’s like. Please know that I wasn’t trying to attack anyone’s experience!